We at yogalila have had this conversation about gurus before. So, when we decided to reflect on it fairly intentionally for the month of July, I figured I knew where it was going. We'll see ;)
I would like to come out in defense of at least the idea of a guru. Moreover, I will suggest that most of the people here who claim not to like gurus, when you think of the concept slightly differently, actually have gurus. And on some level, why wouldn't you? All guru means is "teacher." And the only reasons not to have a teacher are if you already know everything -which certainly no one here is claiming- or if you're in a place where you can't or don't want to learn anything more for a little while. There can be very good reasons for that, I think, but I imagine that feeling is episodic in a person's life. Most of us will flow in and out of having a guru.
Maybe an analagous story will help us. Barely 18-year-old Andrea goes to college, an innocent abroad, if ever there was one. I'm wandering around the university bookstore, looking for the books for my courses, and I almost melt down from excitement. There are piles and piles of books -for Russian language, and calculus, and English history, and anthropology, and philosophy, and heaven knows what else. And I thought "Oh my GOD, people get to know and study all of these things." Seriously, only finances kept me from purchasing dozens more books than I, strictly speaking, needed. I didn't really believe that buying the book was sufficient to give me the knowledge inside it, but somehow it would give me access to the knowledge.
Left alone, I would probably have drifted from one thing to another, delighting in the newness and the richness of inquiry, and the world we live in. (OK, I was REALLY innocent then, but arguably it hasn't gotten much better!) Fortunately, wiser heads prevailed, and an orderly structure -a loose structure by college standards, but a structure nonetheless- was imposed upon me. And I got a different kind of experience from that structure -the delight of digging deeply into one field and really making it mine, deep in my bones. And to do that, I had to metaphorically sit at the feet of the scholars who had come before. What those gurus (scholars) knew that I did not yet, was that critical thinking requires disciplined thinking. You have to be trained to do it; otherwise you're just sounding off -annoying others and embarrassing yourself.
Yoga works like that for me. It's more complicated -and possibly more risky- to have a yoga guru because it involves the body and the spirit as well as the intellect. Nonetheless, yoga is such a rich body of knowledge that without a guide I don't see how we could make sense of it all. It would take too long. We would spend precious time re-discovering things that are already known. And we would probably get hurt in the process.
But people get hurt because they have gurus, you say. Yes, they do - sometimes. But I have two things to say about that. One might be mistaking that look of starry-eyed wonder that can happen at the beginning of any exciting inquiry with turning over one's life to the guru. They might look the same on the outside, for a little while anyway, but they are very different. Maybe try to give the students a little more credit. Maybe they are perfectly competent, intelligent people who are simply reveling in a discipline that is new to them. Conceding that one is a beginner and has much to learn from someone can be a sensible course of action -particularly when it's true. Humility and respect when one is out-gunned in the expertise department only make sense. And the person who is humble and respectful in the yoga studio can turn right around and command respect in another venue.
And the flip-side to that concern is that gurus will inevitably disappoint us. Probably they will. The sub-text to that concern is actually what concerns me, though. Did you really expect that they wouldn't? What's that about? Gurus are just people. Of course, they are all flawed, and some are spectacularly flawed. Gandhi had, to put it delicately, lapses of brahmacharya. That doesn't mean that he did nothing worthy of respect, or that I have nothing to learn from him. The Dalai Lama has probably done something wrong, but I think I could sit at his feet and learn a thing or two. It seems to me that the fact that we can confidently say, "I accept this part of what you are telling me, and I emphatically reject that bit" is because someone, somewhere, taught us to be critical thinkers. We all have gurus all the time, and we do that without losing ourselves at all. Quite the contrary, we come into ourselves, if we choose our gurus well.